Our 3 night Residential Singles Happening\Conferences has been held mostly once every 2 years over the NSW/ACT October long weekend from Friday evening to Monday afternoon.

Since commencing in August 1986 Singles for Christ has held 13 Singles Happenings\Conferences, the first on the 1987 October long weekend at Vision Valley...I well remember becoming more than a trifle concerned in the weeks leading up to this Conference, for with 4 weeks to go only 17 people had registered and paid...Perhaps, it was time to cancel the event, but a phone call and read of the fine print of the contract showed that I was too late to cancel and  we needed 85% of 152 spots booked or 121 people as our financial commitment to Vision Valley and to break even! It was very grim and impossible!

One Sunday while sitting quietly having lunch, I came across a Sunday Telegraph column called "Madigan." Father Denis Madigan was a Catholic Priest with a regular column and he seemed to promote occasionally worthwhile events, so after a prompting from the Holy Spirit, I grabbed a typewriter and composed a letter which I posted that day...

Early the following Sunday morning, I mean very early, and with less than 3 weeks to go, I started to receive a trickle of phone calls about the Singles Happening\Conference...Father Madigan had put in three small paragraphs in his half page column, and the calls kept coming, and became a tidal wave, so much so that as I placed the phone down it would ring again, and that didn't stop for days...In the meantime, I not only came down with tonsilitis, then pharyngitis, I needed strong antibiotics and much energy to help me through.

I got so many calls, that not only did we fill Vision Valley with days to spare, 152 Registered and Paid, we had to knock back over 50 others keen to come...God was awesome!

These 3 night Conferences for Singles and the Formerly Married have featured Outstanding Keynote Speakers from across Australia, Formal Dinner Dances with DJ, Bush Dance with Live Band or theme nights such as a 50-60's Happy Days theme evening, Hawaiian theme evening, Rock and Roll evening, the sheer brilliance of Playback Theatre, Worship and Communion, Relationship Workshops, Prayer, plenty of opportunities in free time to relax and relate, with mostly great accommodation, food and surroundings; and run at cost. 

During this time the13 Singles Happenings\Conferences have attracted people from Sydney, Newcastle, many Regional NSW areas, Brisbane, Canberra, Melbourne, Geelong, Ballarat and in the last decade enquiries especially from Perth, Adelaide, Tasmania, the USA and other countries have ensured much interest.

Pondering: "Too many have invested themselves into relationships that left them deeply wounded...They've been abandoned or taken advantage of, and left with little to show for what they have given...Honesty, integrity seems to be in short supply...Some even espouse that they hold honesty and integrity like a badge of honour in their life, but are bereft of the relational glue that makes them Safe People - Safe for themselves and Safe People for those they enter relationships and commitments with on a daily ongoing basis..."

In a relationship, honesty is the bedrock foundation of a safe relationship...To the degree that there is deception, there is danger...Some people are so good at deception it is second nature to them...Some have wounded people so often, so regularly, that they "suck the power completely out of you" if you allow them...Sadly, some will never see or refuse to admit their wrongdoing...

Deception is a cruel act...It often, but not always, has many players on different stages that corrode the soul; and is found inside Churches, Christian Organisations, where you would expect to be Safe and find Safer People...However, often we find systemic, methodical corruption, fraud, lies, amongst some individuals who relish dishing out daily doses of deception and misery in the name of Christ, with Satan cheering them on from within their heads, hearts and attitudes...Let me encourage you, to take a long term view of these wolves clothed as sheep...For God is shaking His head in disappointment, knowing He will have the last say on the hurt, fraud, lies, deception these people are inflicting upon you and where they will spend eternity...Leave it to Him!

So then, why is Living with Integrity important?



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Three important reasons:


1.  It pleases God. 


That’s the first reason why you need to live a life of integrity.  It pleases God.  Because God is absolute integrity.  The Bible says God cannot lie. The Bible says God is absolute truth. The Bible says because of that, God demands integrity in my actions, in my words and in my thoughts. My whole lifestyle is to be one of honesty and integrity. 


Proverbs 3:22 “The Lord hates people with twisted hearts, but He delights in those who have integrity.”  God hates deception but He loves integrity. 


 2.  It affects others.


It affects the people around you,  whether you live with integrity or you live with a lack of it.  It’s going to influence and affects those people around you.


If you don’t have integrity in your life, your life is going to unravel and sink!             


However, if you normally live with integrity, and make a very ordinary self-centred decision for you, which contains perhaps excuses, but a bad, horrendous decision that affects others, including their relationship with you, your poor decision will eat away at you like a cancer; and will adversely impact your whole life, till you sort it out!


Integrity pleases God and it affects others.


3.  It blesses me.

 The Bible gives us dozens and dozens of benefits of living with integrity.  One is, life is easier.  Life goes smoother, when you live with integrity.                                    

 Proverbs 11:5-6..."Moral character makes for smooth travelling; an evil life is a hard life.  Good character is the best insurance.”                                                        

Life will go smoother, if you maintain integrity.


“The Lord hates liars, but is pleased with those who keep their word.”  Proverbs 12:22


“When a person knows the right thing to do, but doesn’t do it, then he is sinning.”  James 4:17


 “It is better to be a poor person who has integrity than to be rich and double-dealing.”  Proverbs 28:6


 “Let our lives lovingly express the truth in all things – speaking truly, dealing truly, living truly.”  Ephesians 4:15

Our integrity is priceless...To dump it, buried in the best barrage of excuses, means we will not be pleasing God, we will affect others, and our lives will not be blessed, because we would have damaged our good moral character!


Australia and the world, is desperate for people of integrity...Men and Women of Integrity who live the way God intends for them to live, and when they make a mistake or take a poor decision can bounce back and learn from it...You can choose a life of Integrity, in so doing, enjoy the journey of being a Safe Person and Make a Difference!





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 Pondering: " To add value to others, one must first value others! "



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